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sparky reblogged tiddywife
tiddywife -

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sparky -

i am a butch who wants a gf who wants a butch gf......LADIES HMU IM SO LONELY!!

good scents ask game

  • sandalwood: do you prefer the woods or the beach?
  • lavender: what always calms you down when you're stressed out?
  • peppermint: do you have a sweet tooth?
  • cinnamon: what's your favorite holiday (cultural, religious, or otherwise)?
  • linen: what's one quirk about you that no one else seems to get?
  • bonfire: are you a cuddly person?
  • balsam: what does a perfect day look like to you?
  • coconut: what's the most surprising thing that's happened to you this week?
  • vanilla: do you have any stuffed animals?
  • citrus: are there any accessories you wear every day?
  • rosemary: what's something good about you that even your worst enemy would have to agree with?
  • tea tree: do you often remember your dreams? if so, what did you dream about last night?

sparky reblogged badger
badger -

ido believb it is onlye righte that i am allowede the luxury dirte 

i deserve it becausse ime beautyfull

hey you know something that's Good? when you hug a girl and then you separate but not fully, and your arms are still around her and your hands are resting gently on the softness of her hips and you can stare into her eyes and then you pull her waist to yours........

what you i got it ...

no, seriously, i have it, please take it, no, no, please, seriously take it, i don't need it, i want you to have it, please take it, i'd do anything to make you happy, please -

it might not actually be homophobic that i can't live off of cherries and mashed potatoes, but it definitely feels like it

sparky reblogged corky
greatkingrat -

Boys. Good. That is all.

herobrined -

u right

greatkingrat -

Glad we can agree on this

sparky -

heckin superb u funky little mlms !!

message to wlw / nblw [esp. questioning]: 

hey!! if you aren't often attracted to traditionally feminine women / the typical heteropatriarchal model of a woman, that is okay. if you find yourself most attracted to gnc / butch / masculine-of-center / etc. women/nbs, that does not mean you're "straight in denial" or "lying" or "faking" or "secretly into men" or anything

it just means that you are often attracted to a specific kind of person and that is okay. ♥

just went on tumblr and saw a post which essentially said "men's rights!!!!!!111!" under the guise of being super woke 

y'all i can't even explain how bad of a take it was,,,,,

it said basically "feminism is bad actually" and "men experience more sexual assault than women!1!" (??????) and that someone was wrong for discussing how women are made to fear the smallest of things (walking at night, etc) due to constant *male violence

you are not woke !!!! you have looped back around to conservatism !!!!! wtf !!!!!!

(* obviously here i mean predominantly white & cishet men)

feminism is Bad is the COLDEST take ive seen lately

anyway the moral of the story is waterfall is much better ❤❤❤


i literally have no idea why ppl try so hard to police / doubt trans ppl's identities  ? ? ?

as soon as someone informs me what their gender is i cannot see them as anything else 

like, trans guys? you have Just As Much masculine/male "energy" as cis men, i just like you Way More because you're not total cis nightmares 

ditto for trans girls.......

nb folks? y'all are so profoundly neither male nor female it baffles my mind to think of u as anything else 

if u dont know what ur gender is / you don't have one? WOW u are a genderless / gender-scrambling cryptid and i love you and also cannot see you in any other way

and, like ...... if ur gender identity changes? SURPRISE my brain automatically switches to seeing you in the new way/s !!!

and this isn't??? even a good trait of mine or anything im doing right??? it's just how u are that

you are......what you are......i just, i can't even make it work in my brain to see u as anything other than what u are, it's like trying to fold paper in half 7+ times

this is a callout post for mlm / nblm

y'all are just Too Lovely, you need to register all that excellence

monsterofwisewomen asked:

any of the wlw ask numbers that you’ve not answered yet? 💖😚

i'll answer #1! :0

honestly, it took me ,,, a really long time

for many years i tried to force crushes on boys; for some more years i knew something was off but was not sure what it was; and for some years i flirted (no pun intended) with the concept of being gay or something other than cishet (shoutout to me thinking i was trans, then ace,,,), until finally, about a year or two ago, i found cameron esposito's twitter through joseph fink of wtnv's twitter. and from there it was all overi found autostraddle, i agonizingly googled "am i gay" quizzes and "how to tell if you're gay" and "how do you know if you're a lesbian", i spent days just mustering the courage to open the incognito tab and type it in,,,,but things built on themselves and ive come out to select family members, i cut my hair short as i wanted it to be, i started dressing dapper, i started talking about being gay online & irl, and it's amazing and im so thankful

(also i want a gf)


ty for the ask ♥♥

monsterofwisewomen asked:

serendipity and hiraeth ?? 😗

already answered serendipity but!

hiraeth: home is extremely important to me; i would likely be in an extremely fragile mental state if i did not have as good of a home as i do, and im very grateful for that

to me, home is a place of utmost comfort, safety, and peace. nothing more and nothing less. wherever you can be that brings you the pinnacle of tranquility, of comfort, and of security: that is home, and maybe it's the ocd talking, but imo it's like ,,, one of most important things in the world to seek out

ty very much for the ask ♥♥

on all levels except physical, i am walking up a grass hill with a bouquet of flowers and a picnic basket to court a beautiful lady at the top

butch mood of the day is attending a wedding & looking dapper as heck but being jealous of the groom

waterfall sapphic asks!

gaywolf -
  1. when you did know you were a lesbian (or attracted to women)?
  2. have you come out to anyone? if so, how did it go?
  3. do you identify as butch or femme or neither? 
  4. who's your favorite sapphic music artist?
  5. do you have a "type" / a favorite few characteristics in a partner?
  6. are you single? 
  7. do you like the traditionally romantic, sappy stuff like love notes, hearts, flowers, etc.?
  8. what's your lesbian flag of choice (if applicable)?
  9. do you want to get married someday?
  10. what do you think is the gayest thing about you (aside from loving women)?
  11. how great are girls on a scale of 10 to 10?
  12. if you could live anywhere, where and why?
  13. what's one lesbian stereotype you fit?
  14. what's one lesbian stereotype you don't fit?
  15. what's your favorite thing about loving women?

what are you reading?

currently, the book i'm working on is the shadow of death by james runcie! i love mysteries and sidney is 100% adorable. i already bought the sequel and i'm not even halfway through the first one...i'm so happy there's so many works in the series, plus the prequel. ♥


what about you?