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update on the Person™.... we've been texting and they said they want to be held by me 😭😭😭😭

help y'all im catching feelings

akumaspiders asked:

Balsam and coconut?

coconut: someone kissed me + asked me out!!! a WONDERFUL surprise but a very big one!!! i'm still shook lmao...they're really cute tho :'3c


balsam: a walk on a fall day, a stop at a bookstore or a wander through the woods, then a nice meal and relaxation w cozy blankets as there's wind + rain outside...a girl to cuddle with is optional but preferred ♥♥♥♥


thank you for the ask!! 

went on a date todayyyy

with the person who kissed me yesterday 

i think it went ok i am not sure because i am a homosexual and an idiot but like??? i think i did ok, yes 

i do not like heterosexual pda

witchesflower asked:

linen and bonfire :3c

linen: i have a lot of stuff like this that goes beyond just 'quirks' bc i have OCD...however!! one thing that people definitely dont seem to understand is that i CANNOT tolerate true crime documentaries. like, the sound of a program such as 20/20 or frontline or something??? if someone around me is watching it i HAVE to leave or listen to something else because it'll send me into a panic attack. i have no idea why but it's. it's definitely a thing oof


bonfire: YES!! incredibly so...i am constantly down to cuddle and actually i just cuddled w someone for like. over an hour. and im still wanting more ldjfgldfkjg 

im very cuddy and touch-starved :'3c


thank you so much for the ask! ♥♥

waving-willow asked:

peppermint and citrus for the ask meme!

peppermint: unfortunately yes!! im a big sucker for sweets....not all types tho. i don't like a lot of candy and etc. because my mouth is incredibly sensitive and i get canker sores easily. but like, baked goods and stuff? sign me UP


citrus: yes!! every day i wear a silver claddagh ring i got in galway and a watch based upon the biblical story of the tower of babel, from the unemployed philosopher's guild :3c

those are things i definitely wear every day, but generally i also wear a bow tie and a sweater or sweater vest, particularly now that it's fall 


tysm for the ask!!! ♥♥♥

ladies and gentlefolk......your boy got KISSED today........

the rain....the THRIVING!!!

corky asked:

lavender n teatree? :^)

lavender: soft blankets and something casual and familiar to watch! snl skits on youtube, the office, seinfeld, etc. - anything that feels comforting. that plus a few comfort items and i start to feel better. 💕

tea tree: i always remember my dreams! last night i dreamt that my current love interest thought we were in a relationship & was wondering if i would be comfortable with them changing their shoes in front of me. i was like... "???? we're dating???? also since when are shoes controversial???" and i woke up very confused lmao

sadly we aren't dating but i still love them :(


thank you for the ask!! 💕✨

cottagewife asked:

cinnamon and rosemary!

cinnamon: probably Christmas! i love all of the cultural / secular celebration, and as my interest in theology grows my appreciation for Christmas does too!! also Christmas trees Pretty....

rosemary: oh gosh...i don't know... we'll say that i have a very consistent sense of style!! im dapper and no one can deny that

tysm for the ask!! 💕💕

good scents ask game

  • sandalwood: do you prefer the woods or the beach?
  • lavender: what always calms you down when you're stressed out?
  • peppermint: do you have a sweet tooth?
  • cinnamon: what's your favorite holiday (cultural, religious, or otherwise)?
  • linen: what's one quirk about you that no one else seems to get?
  • bonfire: are you a cuddly person?
  • balsam: what does a perfect day look like to you?
  • coconut: what's the most surprising thing that's happened to you this week?
  • vanilla: do you have any stuffed animals?
  • citrus: are there any accessories you wear every day?
  • rosemary: what's something good about you that even your worst enemy would have to agree with?
  • tea tree: do you often remember your dreams? if so, what did you dream about last night?

hey aros, this is your friendly reminder that you're incredibly strong, brave, and valid

(also that shirt looks amazing on you)

ppl asking for consent in non-sexual situations pun intended...incredibly sexy

"do you mind if i grab your phone to look at it a little closer?"

"can i use this?"

"is it okay if i vent to you right now?"

ive decided that what's really important is soft blankets, good food, and gays

phrases that set off my fight-or-flight response

  • try harder
  • what do you want from me?
  • get over it
  • it's not that deep
  • you seriously don't know?
  • figure it out
  • deal with it
  • you have to do things you don't want to sometimes
  • what's the matter with you?
  • be happy
  • toughen up

who is she..............

me, topless, gnawing on an apple and a hunk of cheese at midnight and watching sketch comedy on youtube instead of sleeping:


small nasty things people do to lesbians that you need to realize aren't ok

  • suggest there is some hypothetical man u could love
  • lavish you with praise upon the slightest feminization of ur presentation
  • make comments about your clothes or style like "girls shouldn't wear neckties tho right" or "idk i think it just looks weird" 
  • get offended when you talk about how men make you uncomfortable, how you don't like them, etc. 
  • get offended when you make jokes like "every man owes me $200"
  • say things like "you don't own that word!" w/r/t the word queer
  • act like they have the right to police when and where you call out homophobic remarks
  • saying they're a lesbian when they're not, making a mockery of acual lesbians' oppression
  • take the words butch & femme and try to apply them to straight people
  • suggest that there's something ugly or scary about lesbians
  • suggest that lesbians are gay bc they can't attract men
  • oversexualize or undersexualize lesbian love: reducing us to depraved sex maniacs or acting as if we are puppylike delicate things who never experience desire

there's more but the point here is that lesbians r uniquely mistreated in a lot of big ways and in a lot of small ones, some of which r listed here. im proud to be a lesbian and to my fellow lesbians: i love you. we deserve so much better. and if we don't get it naturally we will take it by force. we are gay and we are magnificent, and i wouldnt have it any other way.

i love the feeling of safety u get from being around other queer, finding ppl who you know at once respect gender feelings and will be full of gay yearning with u? priceless. magnificent. perfect.

hey you know something that's Good? when you hug a girl and then you separate but not fully, and your arms are still around her and your hands are resting gently on the softness of her hips and you can stare into her eyes and then you pull her waist to yours........

realizing that im nonbinary has been a very freeing experience and honestly im so grateful for the people who live their identities w such courage & grace

thank you to all the nb people who have shown me time & time again that i am allowed to exist and that my existence is beautiful

good morning everyone! what a perfect day to cherish trans men


what you i got it ...

no, seriously, i have it, please take it, no, no, please, seriously take it, i don't need it, i want you to have it, please take it, i'd do anything to make you happy, please -